Learning to not interrupt is an important life skill that children can take into adulthood. It helps them develop respect, as well as being aware of those around them.
Telling them there’s a time to interrupt (in case of a fire) and a time to not interrupt (boredom) isn’t enough. But putting these principles into practice is easier said than done, especially for a very verbal or high-energy kid. That’s why now is a good time to revisit some basic lessons about good manners and teaching your child to wait their turn to speak.
Set reasonable expectations
School-aged children have a difficult time holding their thoughts for more than a few minutes. Indicate to her as best as you can that you’ll be with them as soon as possible and then stay true to your word.
Listen
When you’re talking to your kids, give them your full attention. If you actively listen to them, they’ll learn the benefit of waiting instead of being juggled into whatever they’re interrupting.
Prepare
Develop some ideas for them to occupy themselves with while you’re on the phone or otherwise unavailable. Keep a box full of puzzles, crayons, colorful markers or other quiet toys nearby that they can only use when you have to make a call. Set snacks and drinks on an accessible level so they don’t have to interrupt you for help.
When you need to make a call or have an important conversation with a visitor, head off trouble by saying you’re about to phone someone or have a conversation and estimate how long you expect to talk. Ask them if they need anything before you make your call or have your conversation with your company. Then do your best to adhere to that time schedule, and excuse yourself from the conversation long enough to check on them. Let them know you’ll be a bit longer if that’s the case and see if they need anything before returning to your conversation.
Non-verbal cue
If your child wants your attention while you’re talking on the phone or to other adults, have them put their hand on your arm or set up another cue that you can acknowledge silently so they know you’re aware they’re waiting.
Give them books
Reading is a great tool to teach manners. Find several books on the subject then read them together. Discuss afterwards what your child learned from the story and how they’ll handle a similar situation in their life the next time it occurs. Check out my favorite reading program for new and struggling readers.
Set a good example
And as always, children learn what they live. Your child is very unlikely to learn not to interrupt if they hear you, your spouse, or their siblings constantly interrupting each other. Your actions have a strong influence on your child, so be a good example and ask permission to speak before speaking, and apologize when you inadvertently interrupt.
What has worked at your house for teaching kids to not interrupt?
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